Anger Series #1

This is the first in a next few series on anger. Please interact and respond to your opinions about it and share your own experiences with anger.


Are you someone who never gets angry? Or, do others say you are angry a lot? Check this list to see any signs for unresolved anger:

*critical,
*blaming others,
*impatient,
*yelling or often raising your voice,
*take out frustrations while driving,
*thinking about getting even or revenge on another,
*obsessing about what others are doing and why they are doing it,
*finding others to vent to,
*thinking others are idiots,
*enjoy arguing,
*defend yourself when someone finds fault with you,
*hard time putting yourself in others’ shoes,
*bitter or resentful of past issues,
*obvious displays of too much anger, or
*avoid conflict altogether.

If you could identify with more than three items on the list, you need to take some intentional action to learn more about anger. If most of the list describes you, you need serious help.

Anger is not the problem so much as it is the ANSWER to light the way.

As a matter of fact, it is the very light you need to find the way into your inner self and discover what is going on there. Experiencing any form of anger (mild frustration to rage) is a necessary part of human emotions. It tells you something is wrong. It is not the anger that is wrong, but what you do with it.

Read "Anger: A Warning Light" in my latest Newsletter edition for more information on how to maximize anger. Look for more “points” inside the Newsletter about this issue of anger.

When you first feel yourself getting angry, stop. Ask yourself what is this circumstance, situation, or person bringing up inside of me. In other words, what am I feeling in response to the situation?

If you understand that anger belongs to you and is not for “dumping” or getting rid of, you will have given yourself a great gift. When people give their anger away, they are actually rejecting a gift that can help inner conflicts.
Owning anger and dealing with it personally can lead to a whole new way of living your life much more peacefully even in the midst of stormy circumstances. It lights the way to healing of many unresolved issues.

Blessings,
Susan

I AM BACK…

Sorry, I have been living in the land of the lost, unaccounted for these past eight months. I have no excuses except the four letter word called, LIFE.

Briefly, my mother needed a lot of help last May when she sold her house and all its contents. That happened in 5/09 (the date of my last blog). After that, the past eight months have been about relocating her and resettling her. It was difficult and very time consuming in every way imagineable.


Then, in July, we also relocated my mother-in-law due to her needs. As of August, 2009, I had both my mother and my mother-in-law living here on my property with the responsibility of caring for their needs. Thanks to my wonderful husband, we survived those times. However, in mid-August, we received bad news that my mother-in-law had Stage 4 Cancer. She was hospitalized and never came back home to us. Instead, she passed away to her Eternal Home.

It has been hard and sad mourning her loss as she was the most wonderful woman and very important to me. The past few months have been good for healing and grieving time. It has also provided the room for my mother to take up residence in the house on my property and use it as her new place. She can visit my dad in the nursing home and I can keep a close eye on her to take care of her needs. Things have settled in to a more manageable place so I can resume this blog.

Thanks for your understanding and patience about this and I hope you will continue to follow the blog. I am sorry that I did not post what was going on with me on the blog. Looking back, I was too bogged down in the mode of survival of trying to manage my professional counseling along with dealing with some very hard personal issues.

Blog Plans:

I am planning on putting up an article from my newsletter (which is available at my website: www.lifehouserestoration.com) every few days. The newsletter is the beginning of facts and information on topics of interest and issues that are important to good emotional health and maturity.

The articles will come up on the blog so that you can have a place to interact with each other and dialogue about them. Interacting this way brings connection with others along with the act of reading the newsletter. I am hoping that bringing together these two forums will work in concert to make the topics a reality to use in your own life.

This is my first post. The second will be forthcoming right along with the newsletter. So, Happy 2010 to you and to me and I am very much looking forward to you coming to visit the blog each time there is a new post and sharing to be known with the post and with each other.

Susan