More Anger Awareness to Turn into Healthy Ways of Processing It

Guided By Anger


Living your life with Anger as a GUIDE can actually be a good thing. Using all the forms of anger and the ways of expressing it, you can begin to monitor your ways of expressing anger. Once you have an awareness of the situations and patterns that seem to trigger you and your “reactions” or responses to those situations, you can begin to let the anger guide you to inner awareness.


Using an example from your life in the present, ask yourself two questions when you are feeling any form of anger:


1. What is this about?


2. What is the feeling I am currently feeling?


If you cannot identify anything other than feeling some form of anger, take a very deep breath and try again. This time, wait for the answer to come. You will most likely uncover a feeling of some unmet need, some form of disrespect, rejection, or being misunderstood.


Once you identify the feeling under the anger, ask this question: When do I ever first remember feeling this same way? Go back as far as you can remember. This is the beginning of finding a clue to letting anger become your friendly guide.


Directions from friendly fire


Using anger as your friendly guide, let it show the way to new methods of using and channeling your anger in healthy ways. You can journal patterns, keep an anger diary or find other ways to keep track of what you are noticing about your anger patterns. You can also ask others to help you out by pointing out what they see about your anger that is not apparent to you.


It is important to note that if you are rarely angry, you need to also use this method to ask what things might be bothering you and why you are stuffing them. Ask when you first remember not letting yourself get mad.



Looking for directions from anger requires you to be intentional about observing yourself while you are connecting it to your inner being. If you merely spend time just thinking about it and not really getting further to the bottom of those feelings, you will not understand your anger and it will not be helpful.



Quotes:


“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.” ~Will Rogers


“Take no revenge that you have not pondered beneath a starry sky, or on a canyon overlook, or to the lapping of waves and the mewing of a distant gull.” ~Robert Brault

Blessings,
Susan