Just to be clear on meaning as I write this Love Letter to you so you can love yourself in healthier ways, I need to let you know that how you perceive anything is how you form a concept of it. Therefore, if you have an unhealthy perception of yourself, you will have an unhealthy view of everything about your life. Being self-aware is KEY to coming alive and awake to your TRUE self. Most people were trained to hide or keep out of view the parts of them that others considered not “good enough,” weak or that needed changing. Those messages usually begin in childhood from parents, siblings and teachers or other authority figures. They set up some false beliefs that kids internalize and believe to be the truth until they have a WAKE UP CALL.
First WAKE UP CALL! Ding, Ding, Ding! How many times a day do you ding yourself or put yourself down? Ding, Ding, Ding! How many times a day do you put others down so you can feel “better than” about your own self. Don’t be shy. Admit it. WE all do it. Truth is, however, our relationships with self and others would all be a lot better if we were not doing that or had awareness that we were doing it and owned it by admission which would lead to changes in behavior. Staying unconscious is not an option to finding your true self and realizing your potential.
Truth: If your view of yourself is skewed one way or another (less than or better than) at any given time, your perspective on all of your life is at risk for falseness. Operating with a false perspective makes things confusing, chaotic, and foggy which leads to trancing and not being present in the here and now. It leads to obsessions, addictions, hiding behaviors, arguing, anger and lots of reactive defensiveness. In other words, you will be stressed to the max and dependent on false perceptions. I am sure you know, work with, or even live with people like this. They are random and chaotic and life is usually all about them and their problems or very shut down.
Second WAKE UP CALL! Ding, Ding, Ding! How often do you check out or live in a place of hiding how you really feel? Ding, Ding, Ding! How often are your feelings so reactive that no one can even be honest with you because you are such an intimidating bully? Sometimes, you have formed such a habit of doing these things, you will not even be aware of it or you will rationalize behavior by telling yourself others are MAKING you act that way. REALLY? No one makes any adult act out of line. That adult chooses childish behavior and blames others for it (also, childish).
Lastly, think about this: Are you being true to yourself by lying to yourself? If your perspective is dependent on blaming others and finding fault with them, you are not operating in self-love. That way of behaving is immature and unloving of self and others. Grownups need to love themselves enough to admit issues and owning them. They do belong to YOU if you choose to mistreat others, that is about you, not them. Passion to find your true self requires COMpassion for others and self respect.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Also follow my daily tweets for more: https://twitter.com/NewLifeSusan
Friday, February 8, 2013
Friday, January 25, 2013
WHAT IF? ... Just Ask Your Inner Self
POTENTIAL = EXISTING IN POSSIBILITY; Likely to become or come into being.
Ever wonder how things happen? Ever wonder who you would be or could be if you had different circumstances? Ever wonder what the difference would be: “if”????
It is actually positive to wonder about the “what ifs” and to ponder the differences of two existing situations. Life is full of circumstances and full of potentials. Dreaming and thinking about the “wonderment” of what if’s can actually help you end the past trances you may have been walking around in from year to year. :-) Casting a spell over yourself and telling yourself the same old story without wondering or dreaming of a new story or a new potential leaves you in lack and limits change.
Since change WILL happen, would it be fun to think that you could actually play a positive role in a new outlook if you focused on that possibility? Well, you do have that choice. YOU can actually change your perspective and shift into a new place of awareness as you wake up from the past sleep you have walked around in for years.
I have always known that I could carve out a new future for myself using my potential AND I have always known I could help others do the same for their lives. It is a power I did not understand as well in the past as I do now. I used to think of potential as what I would gain if I worked hard at my job, relationships, etc. to MAKE them be what I wanted in an artificial or performance based way.
Before I lose you, pay attention! Remember, this is for your own good and the greater good. You can align with a positive destiny for your life, but only if you understand your potential and that it is NEVER too late to uncover that potential. For example, I am living proof that you can liberate yourself to do what you love at any age. In my day, teaching and nursing was it for females. (Yes, I know I am dating myself.) I chose teaching since I hated the sight of blood and I loved learning. I went to college with no encouragement to do so from parents. I moved along pretending I knew what I was doing and soon, I actually did and was a darn good teacher.
My example of becoming a teacher is where most people’s story ends. They do it because they kind of go unconsciously into the process of growing up and finding a job that suits them (if they are fortunate as I was). The passion and potential of the full extent of their destiny may still not be fulfilled, however, until later on in life. By that time, they convince themselves it is TOO late to do what they love. Again, for me it is counseling and helping people out of “old traps” and thought paradigms. I love psychology and spirituality. Those two were combined for me when I went for a second masters in those areas when my kids were graduating from high school.
Potential is always there, available for “becoming” a bigger or larger influence using your gifts and POTENT power - passion of what you love and enjoy. You can become a greater influence doing what you love or have always dreamed of doing.
SO, ... JUST ASKING you to ask the inner you, “WHAT would I really LOVE to be doing that would have a great influence on me and create new possibilities to inspire others?
Go ahead - do that and share it here.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Ever wonder how things happen? Ever wonder who you would be or could be if you had different circumstances? Ever wonder what the difference would be: “if”????
It is actually positive to wonder about the “what ifs” and to ponder the differences of two existing situations. Life is full of circumstances and full of potentials. Dreaming and thinking about the “wonderment” of what if’s can actually help you end the past trances you may have been walking around in from year to year. :-) Casting a spell over yourself and telling yourself the same old story without wondering or dreaming of a new story or a new potential leaves you in lack and limits change.
Since change WILL happen, would it be fun to think that you could actually play a positive role in a new outlook if you focused on that possibility? Well, you do have that choice. YOU can actually change your perspective and shift into a new place of awareness as you wake up from the past sleep you have walked around in for years.
I have always known that I could carve out a new future for myself using my potential AND I have always known I could help others do the same for their lives. It is a power I did not understand as well in the past as I do now. I used to think of potential as what I would gain if I worked hard at my job, relationships, etc. to MAKE them be what I wanted in an artificial or performance based way.
Before I lose you, pay attention! Remember, this is for your own good and the greater good. You can align with a positive destiny for your life, but only if you understand your potential and that it is NEVER too late to uncover that potential. For example, I am living proof that you can liberate yourself to do what you love at any age. In my day, teaching and nursing was it for females. (Yes, I know I am dating myself.) I chose teaching since I hated the sight of blood and I loved learning. I went to college with no encouragement to do so from parents. I moved along pretending I knew what I was doing and soon, I actually did and was a darn good teacher.
My example of becoming a teacher is where most people’s story ends. They do it because they kind of go unconsciously into the process of growing up and finding a job that suits them (if they are fortunate as I was). The passion and potential of the full extent of their destiny may still not be fulfilled, however, until later on in life. By that time, they convince themselves it is TOO late to do what they love. Again, for me it is counseling and helping people out of “old traps” and thought paradigms. I love psychology and spirituality. Those two were combined for me when I went for a second masters in those areas when my kids were graduating from high school.
Potential is always there, available for “becoming” a bigger or larger influence using your gifts and POTENT power - passion of what you love and enjoy. You can become a greater influence doing what you love or have always dreamed of doing.
SO, ... JUST ASKING you to ask the inner you, “WHAT would I really LOVE to be doing that would have a great influence on me and create new possibilities to inspire others?
Go ahead - do that and share it here.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
FREE AT LAST, FREE AT LAST! Breaking out of Trances and Spells to Keep Focus
My last blog challenged you to check into your focus. I asked you to check in with where you are giving your most attention: past, present, or future. I challenged you to try to keep focus on the present and stay with how you are in the here and now. It is often very difficult to stay with yourself and not drift off to another time or put yourself back into that trance or hypnosis when you are not enjoying the present.
One of the things that helps you take those STEPS I have outlined is to stay in a state of balance and stay in thoughts and emotions and awareness of your present relationships. You may need to reset and refocus your intention and attention at the same time. I was asking you to try that in my last blog. All it takes is to tell yourself you desire to remain present with your entire being (intention) and follow that with focused attention to that goal. It is like when you set your phone or calendar to remind you of something. You keep the date and you attend to it.
Taking responsibility for making yourself tune in to yourself and others without “trancing out” or going under the influence by being reactive is very doable with this beginning step. You set your attention on YOU and YOUR engagement with that attention. That is called focus or giving of energy to a focal point. You are actually taking charge of your mind and following that with an action.
The opposite of doing this is to let someone else do it for you. You may “think” you can talk to someone and think about something else or think negatively, but act positively, but you are kidding yourself. Your brain is patterning what you feed it. Letting your brain fog out, use negative inner think patterns, think about what you plan to do later or what you did last night actually is training or reinforcing it to NOT be operating and attuning to the present. Unfortunately, the brain is like a computer and if this is your default setting, it will be used all the time - whether you are talking to a person that bores you or someone you really want to pay attention to in an intimate relationship. Over time, those “neural ruts” get deeper and are harder to change to more enjoyable ways to relate to self and others.
The way to break out into being and staying free to be you begins with placing a special emphasis on directing concentrated energy to stay awake and conscious. That means in the moment - FROM moment to moment. Then, you get momentum from that practice of being mindful of what you are doing.
Please spend a little effort on thinking about how your life would be different if you were able to stay present and not have others trigger you into some reactive state; especially thinking they have the power to “make you mad” or to make you feel any particular way. Think about how much power that gives to others to influence how you see and feel about yourself in all aspects of your life. Ask: “How would it change my life for the positive if I was able to esteem myself enough to share the real me??”
I would like you to recall an incident where either you or the person you were interacting with, “tranced out”. Tell us how that made you feel (if the other person did it) or explain why you think you did it.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
One of the things that helps you take those STEPS I have outlined is to stay in a state of balance and stay in thoughts and emotions and awareness of your present relationships. You may need to reset and refocus your intention and attention at the same time. I was asking you to try that in my last blog. All it takes is to tell yourself you desire to remain present with your entire being (intention) and follow that with focused attention to that goal. It is like when you set your phone or calendar to remind you of something. You keep the date and you attend to it.
Taking responsibility for making yourself tune in to yourself and others without “trancing out” or going under the influence by being reactive is very doable with this beginning step. You set your attention on YOU and YOUR engagement with that attention. That is called focus or giving of energy to a focal point. You are actually taking charge of your mind and following that with an action.
The opposite of doing this is to let someone else do it for you. You may “think” you can talk to someone and think about something else or think negatively, but act positively, but you are kidding yourself. Your brain is patterning what you feed it. Letting your brain fog out, use negative inner think patterns, think about what you plan to do later or what you did last night actually is training or reinforcing it to NOT be operating and attuning to the present. Unfortunately, the brain is like a computer and if this is your default setting, it will be used all the time - whether you are talking to a person that bores you or someone you really want to pay attention to in an intimate relationship. Over time, those “neural ruts” get deeper and are harder to change to more enjoyable ways to relate to self and others.
The way to break out into being and staying free to be you begins with placing a special emphasis on directing concentrated energy to stay awake and conscious. That means in the moment - FROM moment to moment. Then, you get momentum from that practice of being mindful of what you are doing.
Please spend a little effort on thinking about how your life would be different if you were able to stay present and not have others trigger you into some reactive state; especially thinking they have the power to “make you mad” or to make you feel any particular way. Think about how much power that gives to others to influence how you see and feel about yourself in all aspects of your life. Ask: “How would it change my life for the positive if I was able to esteem myself enough to share the real me??”
I would like you to recall an incident where either you or the person you were interacting with, “tranced out”. Tell us how that made you feel (if the other person did it) or explain why you think you did it.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Monday, January 21, 2013
FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS…..
I am interested in any feedback from those of you who took the Self Awareness Test.
I put it up as part of my blog more for a focus on the STEPS needed to stay in balance as you journey into more awakening within yourself. Notice that the word is within –that is where it begins, right inside all the inner parts of you.
Think of the life you are living as a constant opportunity to focus on paying more attention to yourself and how you interact with the world around you in each of the five areas of the STEPS. Like any journey, it begins right where you are…at home and it starts, NOW. The goal is to enjoy the Journey of Your Life so you are free to be you.
In the movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life”, the main character, George, is depressed about his life and is even, suicidal. The theme of the story is that it takes an angel to help lift him out of that pit and show him what things would have been like if he never existed. Most of you have seen the movie as it is such a favorite. If not, try to see it sometime. Just like George, you may need a wake up to show you how important your life really is and how important you are to others.
Sometimes, it does take someone to wake you up, like George’s angel, and help you gain awareness of yourself (to see WHO you REALLY are and what your existence here is about). The saddest lives are those who never understand how important they are to the rest of us. We are all connected and each life has great potential to touch others. Sometimes, people do not open their eyes to this and miss out on the greatness of who they are or they just don’t have a perspective that others have about them. Either way, it is a tragedy because many end up in a pit of depression or very anxious about their existence and miss the joy each day brings.
Living life in the present, and letting the past integrate into your being allows you to appreciate your Story. Focusing on the past and living as though there is no hope is depressing. Many of my clients come to therapy because they are depressed. Mostly what they uncover is that they are depressed about lies they are believing about themselves. For example, they may be focusing on a “mistake” they made years ago or some of the awful experiences they have endured. Since their focus is stuck in trauma and distress, they are naturally depressed. The way out of that pit is to heal those horrible memories instead of going over and over them. While healing, it is possible to wake up to the awareness of the positives available in the present.
So, for today, just ask yourself, “What do I focus on most?” (past, present or future worry). See if you can do what I mentioned last week, try to use the STEPS aspects of yourself and check in to see where you are out of balance. More help next time.
Stay Present and focus!
Happy Martin Luther King Day! He was a great example of someone who believed in the VALUE of having a DREAM and using his life to the “max” to share that dream with many others. You can have a dream and call it into existence. It is NOT too late!
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
I put it up as part of my blog more for a focus on the STEPS needed to stay in balance as you journey into more awakening within yourself. Notice that the word is within –that is where it begins, right inside all the inner parts of you.
Think of the life you are living as a constant opportunity to focus on paying more attention to yourself and how you interact with the world around you in each of the five areas of the STEPS. Like any journey, it begins right where you are…at home and it starts, NOW. The goal is to enjoy the Journey of Your Life so you are free to be you.
In the movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life”, the main character, George, is depressed about his life and is even, suicidal. The theme of the story is that it takes an angel to help lift him out of that pit and show him what things would have been like if he never existed. Most of you have seen the movie as it is such a favorite. If not, try to see it sometime. Just like George, you may need a wake up to show you how important your life really is and how important you are to others.
Sometimes, it does take someone to wake you up, like George’s angel, and help you gain awareness of yourself (to see WHO you REALLY are and what your existence here is about). The saddest lives are those who never understand how important they are to the rest of us. We are all connected and each life has great potential to touch others. Sometimes, people do not open their eyes to this and miss out on the greatness of who they are or they just don’t have a perspective that others have about them. Either way, it is a tragedy because many end up in a pit of depression or very anxious about their existence and miss the joy each day brings.
Living life in the present, and letting the past integrate into your being allows you to appreciate your Story. Focusing on the past and living as though there is no hope is depressing. Many of my clients come to therapy because they are depressed. Mostly what they uncover is that they are depressed about lies they are believing about themselves. For example, they may be focusing on a “mistake” they made years ago or some of the awful experiences they have endured. Since their focus is stuck in trauma and distress, they are naturally depressed. The way out of that pit is to heal those horrible memories instead of going over and over them. While healing, it is possible to wake up to the awareness of the positives available in the present.
So, for today, just ask yourself, “What do I focus on most?” (past, present or future worry). See if you can do what I mentioned last week, try to use the STEPS aspects of yourself and check in to see where you are out of balance. More help next time.
Stay Present and focus!
Happy Martin Luther King Day! He was a great example of someone who believed in the VALUE of having a DREAM and using his life to the “max” to share that dream with many others. You can have a dream and call it into existence. It is NOT too late!
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
STEPS TEST for Self Awareness
TEST DAY, I made you “AWARE” of this in my last Blog,
Are You AWAKE TO TAKE IT?
SPIRIT steps awareness:
1. I have a basic understanding of what spiritual means.
2. I equate spiritual to religious.
3. I consider myself a spiritual person.
4. I spend time connecting with my inner spirit.
5. I spend time connecting with a Higher Powered Spirit.
6. I connect with others spiritually.
7. I enjoy drinking spirits.
THINK steps awareness:
1. I am always behaving in sync with my think.
2. I have some think that is full of stink.
3. I enjoy a sarcastic think time.
4. I think about things I wish I didn’t.
5. I think about the past a lot.
6. I think about the future a lot.
7. I like to think I am better than others.
EMOTIONAL steps awareness:
1. I am very much in touch with my emotions.
2. I am out of control with my emotions.
3. I am very walled off in my emotions.
4. My emotions rule me and just happen.
5. I connect with others emotionally.
6. I consider myself very evolved emotionally.
7. I connect emotionally with God.
PHYSICAL steps awareness:
1. I am in touch with my body.
2. I have a good relationship with my body.
3. I take very good care of my body in all areas.
4. I am able to moderate food, spending, drinking, etc. easily.
5. I am aware and in balance with all the material things in lfie.
6. I mostly connect with others physically.
7. I am moderate about my levels of activity.
SOCIAL and RELATIONSHIP steps awareness:
1. I am very social and thrive on being with people.
2. I am not very social and do not like being social.
3. I love intimate relationships with others that are connective.
4. I have close relationships with my family.
5. I am unable to bond and make close relationships.
6. I am easily bored with most relationships.
7. Relationships are challenging for me.
How did you do? Oh, you want a Grade? Go ahead, give yourself one! :-) This was strictly a baseline for you to inventory how self-aware you are in each area. Now, write a response to yourself about how awake and aware about self you are….. Feel free to comment on any of these “STEPS” or the statements associated with them.
Also follow my tweets for more: https://twitter.com/NewLifeSusan
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Are You AWAKE TO TAKE IT?
SPIRIT steps awareness:
1. I have a basic understanding of what spiritual means.
2. I equate spiritual to religious.
3. I consider myself a spiritual person.
4. I spend time connecting with my inner spirit.
5. I spend time connecting with a Higher Powered Spirit.
6. I connect with others spiritually.
7. I enjoy drinking spirits.
THINK steps awareness:
1. I am always behaving in sync with my think.
2. I have some think that is full of stink.
3. I enjoy a sarcastic think time.
4. I think about things I wish I didn’t.
5. I think about the past a lot.
6. I think about the future a lot.
7. I like to think I am better than others.
EMOTIONAL steps awareness:
1. I am very much in touch with my emotions.
2. I am out of control with my emotions.
3. I am very walled off in my emotions.
4. My emotions rule me and just happen.
5. I connect with others emotionally.
6. I consider myself very evolved emotionally.
7. I connect emotionally with God.
PHYSICAL steps awareness:
1. I am in touch with my body.
2. I have a good relationship with my body.
3. I take very good care of my body in all areas.
4. I am able to moderate food, spending, drinking, etc. easily.
5. I am aware and in balance with all the material things in lfie.
6. I mostly connect with others physically.
7. I am moderate about my levels of activity.
SOCIAL and RELATIONSHIP steps awareness:
1. I am very social and thrive on being with people.
2. I am not very social and do not like being social.
3. I love intimate relationships with others that are connective.
4. I have close relationships with my family.
5. I am unable to bond and make close relationships.
6. I am easily bored with most relationships.
7. Relationships are challenging for me.
How did you do? Oh, you want a Grade? Go ahead, give yourself one! :-) This was strictly a baseline for you to inventory how self-aware you are in each area. Now, write a response to yourself about how awake and aware about self you are….. Feel free to comment on any of these “STEPS” or the statements associated with them.
Also follow my tweets for more: https://twitter.com/NewLifeSusan
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
Website: http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
Face book: http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
CONNECTIONS AND CONSCIOUSNESS AS STEPS IN AWAKE AND AWARE GROWS
How well did you connect with yourself from Monday to now? Remember, gotta’ check all your STEPS: Spiritual, Think, Emotions, Physical, and Social connections!
How often were you entering that “trance” state and going Under the Influence?
Definition: CONSCIOUSNESS:
BITTERSWEET is my Tweet this week. That is because connecting with the word bittersweet is important to help resolve the past, stay present and awake to the present and bring hope to the future. Life is full of bittersweet and resolving or digging up the past is full of bitterness and yet, you get a sweet return when you think of how it all worked to make you the amazing person you are presently.
CONNECTED TO CONSCIOUSNESS as you can see could be tricky
I mean, to be really present in the moment! Is that even possible? Obviously, it looks complicated only because most humans don’t reach that state without being a yogi, monk, or some other kind of guru. AND, along with that, why would I even want to?
To some, it may even sound boring :-) That’s why kids set up the default trance settings early on. It is a kid perspective to think anyone other than themselves and what they are doing is all that interesting. Even other peers can be annoying… Ooops, did I describe egocentric and developmentally immature perspectives?
Here’s the Problem: We currently have a lot of people on the planet sleep walking through not just the day, but their entire life. This happens over time living in a society that is all about being out of balance…to much emphasis on the lower levels of consciousness: physical and intellectual and social and almost none on spiritual and emotional or how to think out of an adult mindset in intimate relationships.
Question for the Day? (Please engage in comments on this)
Am I present in all five areas when I engage with children and significant others?
One brain tip to connect with: cognitive neuroscience is opening whole new ways to understand things we never knew about like how process occurs and why so much of it is automatic and leads to anxiety and depressing thoughts. I post that to help you know that we are only just beginning to get information that helps us in this process.
HELP MEAT OF THE DAY: Stay present as much as you can to check in with yourself as to how conscious you are living throughout the day. See if you can connect with at least one moment when you felt totally present with the situation in an intimate relationship (non-sexual one) and the emotional feeling you associated with it.
Next time: Come back Friday to do a baseline test to see how under the influence of the trance effect you are in your closest relationships. Everybody can pass this test!
Also follow my tweets for more: https://twitter.com/NewLifeSusan
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
How often were you entering that “trance” state and going Under the Influence?
Definition: CONSCIOUSNESS:
An alert being, present with self. This means being self aware in the present. You are awake; mind, body and spirit, not just letting life happen around you, or checking in and out lacking full time focus. This is not an ordered life. It is random and chaotic.
BITTERSWEET is my Tweet this week. That is because connecting with the word bittersweet is important to help resolve the past, stay present and awake to the present and bring hope to the future. Life is full of bittersweet and resolving or digging up the past is full of bitterness and yet, you get a sweet return when you think of how it all worked to make you the amazing person you are presently.
CONNECTED TO CONSCIOUSNESS as you can see could be tricky
I mean, to be really present in the moment! Is that even possible? Obviously, it looks complicated only because most humans don’t reach that state without being a yogi, monk, or some other kind of guru. AND, along with that, why would I even want to?
To some, it may even sound boring :-) That’s why kids set up the default trance settings early on. It is a kid perspective to think anyone other than themselves and what they are doing is all that interesting. Even other peers can be annoying… Ooops, did I describe egocentric and developmentally immature perspectives?
Here’s the Problem: We currently have a lot of people on the planet sleep walking through not just the day, but their entire life. This happens over time living in a society that is all about being out of balance…to much emphasis on the lower levels of consciousness: physical and intellectual and social and almost none on spiritual and emotional or how to think out of an adult mindset in intimate relationships.
Question for the Day? (Please engage in comments on this)
Am I present in all five areas when I engage with children and significant others?
One brain tip to connect with: cognitive neuroscience is opening whole new ways to understand things we never knew about like how process occurs and why so much of it is automatic and leads to anxiety and depressing thoughts. I post that to help you know that we are only just beginning to get information that helps us in this process.
HELP MEAT OF THE DAY: Stay present as much as you can to check in with yourself as to how conscious you are living throughout the day. See if you can connect with at least one moment when you felt totally present with the situation in an intimate relationship (non-sexual one) and the emotional feeling you associated with it.
Next time: Come back Friday to do a baseline test to see how under the influence of the trance effect you are in your closest relationships. Everybody can pass this test!
Also follow my tweets for more: https://twitter.com/NewLifeSusan
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
http://www.lifehouserestoration.com
http://www.facebook.com/newlifesusan?fref=ts
Wednesday, January 9, 2013
WELCOME BACK TO THE SUSAN FRINK ANDERSON BLOG
Let me introduce Me: I am a licensed professional counselor with a fair amount of expertise in my field. I am not your average therapist from my perspective. I believe in healing treatment and plans around all of that, but I offer much more which I will not bore you with now. :-)
In this Blog, I am offering a lot of Wisdom, Experience, & Practical Information that you can apply right away to help you live a more SELF Aware and Awakened Life. It is NOT self help per se, but that may be the outcome. It is more like stopping in for tea and having a conversation with someone who will listen and share without judgment or insensitivity, yet who has healing help for finding out more about yourself, God and anyone you need to be in close relationship with in any area of your life.
I will offer the latest on anger, depression, addictions, therapy, overcoming trauma, troubled relationships....you name it; I have had a lot of exposure to dysfunction (my own and others:) and I can demonstrate ways to remove insanity from your life forever.
I hope you will enjoy this blog that combines Beginnings, Wanderings, and Wellness Endings in the context of my story, your story and the Power of all stories about people's lives. I will share my STEPS to Wellness and the Secrets to staying well: Spiritually, Thinking-wise, Emotionally, Physically, and Socially (relationships).
Notice: Acronym STEPS includes all aspects of life that need to be in balance for all of us to develop and grow up in healthier ways than in the past. Also, NOTICE, I did use the term “grow up”. Maturity is a big factor in this blog.
Expect to engage, meditate, share, and be surprised at all that happens here three times per week. That's right! Stay with me - Tune in Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for the latest in how to Live and Love in Complete Wellness: Mind-Body-Spirit. From my experience as a human, my education in psychology, my relationship training and engagement, age- old, or old-age wisdom, plus expertise as a therapist will blend and integrate to give you a Whole fresh approach to a NEW ERA of Living Well in the Present.
In this Blog, I am offering a lot of Wisdom, Experience, & Practical Information that you can apply right away to help you live a more SELF Aware and Awakened Life. It is NOT self help per se, but that may be the outcome. It is more like stopping in for tea and having a conversation with someone who will listen and share without judgment or insensitivity, yet who has healing help for finding out more about yourself, God and anyone you need to be in close relationship with in any area of your life.
I will offer the latest on anger, depression, addictions, therapy, overcoming trauma, troubled relationships....you name it; I have had a lot of exposure to dysfunction (my own and others:) and I can demonstrate ways to remove insanity from your life forever.
I hope you will enjoy this blog that combines Beginnings, Wanderings, and Wellness Endings in the context of my story, your story and the Power of all stories about people's lives. I will share my STEPS to Wellness and the Secrets to staying well: Spiritually, Thinking-wise, Emotionally, Physically, and Socially (relationships).
Notice: Acronym STEPS includes all aspects of life that need to be in balance for all of us to develop and grow up in healthier ways than in the past. Also, NOTICE, I did use the term “grow up”. Maturity is a big factor in this blog.
Expect to engage, meditate, share, and be surprised at all that happens here three times per week. That's right! Stay with me - Tune in Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for the latest in how to Live and Love in Complete Wellness: Mind-Body-Spirit. From my experience as a human, my education in psychology, my relationship training and engagement, age- old, or old-age wisdom, plus expertise as a therapist will blend and integrate to give you a Whole fresh approach to a NEW ERA of Living Well in the Present.
Monday, January 7, 2013
New Beginning for a New ERA of Awakening and Awareness
SO…WHAT WOULD MAKE ME THINK YOU MIGHT NEED
TO READ MY BLOG AND FOLLOW IT?
TO READ MY BLOG AND FOLLOW IT?
That is such a great question and I am glad you asked it! I had this “thera-blog” I started back before 2010. I was so busy wearing many hats at that time and was pretty clueless as to the needs and demands that caring for the elderly requires. YIKES! My husband and I went “all in” for the care of his mom and my parents. Right up front, I will tell you that his mom was a piece of cake…the type of woman who loves you and wants to do what you ask.
Then, there were my parents. Let me just say that the Learning Curves I have always gotten from my parents are worth the price of several PhD’s. Of course, this is what I realize in hindsight (20/20). I loved my parents, but they offered challenges and a lot of creativity in ways to help them. My parents were the “independent” type who do not want to ever be a bother. You know, the type: self sufficient in a myriad of ways. This type of person is hard to deal with individually, but when there are two joined together for over 70 years, we are talking super glue to the max. I call this co-dependence. My parents called it love. I imagine it is an issue of perspective as to what words you use to describe it.
But, I digress: What I am trying to say is that all three of our parents have passed away in the last four years. All three were moved from eastern NY to our area in Western NY. Our “moms” resided in our guest house and my dad was in nursing care two miles away. The caretaking role fell a lot to my gem of a husband as he took the ladies to the doctor and wherever they wanted to go along with running errands for them. In the case of my mom, this meant daily visits to see my dad. The physical part was quite a disruption, but the emotional and other drain was also very heavy. This is where it connects to my lack of focus to blog. What was I thinking?????
Blogging not only requires commitment in order to be interesting and helpful, which is what I desire, but it also needs focus. In the past, I was a great multi-tasker. I now see how that skill can sometimes interfere with staying present in your mind. I learned this over the course of the past four years. In order to be creative, spontaneous, focused, and stay present with intended goals, you cannot be so busy and distracted that you are chaotic and random. Numbing and not feeling life as you put yourself into “busy mode” and pushing through takes a toll.
This is what my blogs will be about. I know the difference between existing and going through the motions in a trance kind of way and being awake and present enough to enjoy the moment. I have always “known” these things, but at the beginning of 2013, I am awake in new ways to share through my writings and offerings using this blog, twitter, facebook, my life, linked in and any social media that provides an avenue to be heard.
I hope you will enjoy this blog that combines Beginnings, Wanderings, and Wellness Endings in the context of my story, your story and the Power of all stories about people’s lives. I will share my STEPS to Wellness and the Secrets to staying well spiritually, thinking-wise, emotionally, physically, and socially (meaning in all your relationships with self, God and others).
Expect to engage, meditate, share, and be surprised at all that will happen here three times per week. That’s right! Tune in Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for the latest in how to Live and Love in Complete Wellness: Mind-Body-Spirit. From my experience as a human, my education in psychology, my relationship training and engagement, age old wisdom, and expertise as a therapist will blend and integrate to give you a New Era of Living Well in the Present. I will offer the latest on anger, depression, addictions, therapy, overcoming trauma, troubled relationships….you name it; I have had a lot of exposure to dysfunction (my own and others:) and I can demonstrate ways to remove insanity from your life forever.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
www.lifehouserestoration.com
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