My last blog challenged you to check into your focus. I asked you to check in with where you are giving your most attention: past, present, or future. I challenged you to try to keep focus on the present and stay with how you are in the here and now. It is often very difficult to stay with yourself and not drift off to another time or put yourself back into that trance or hypnosis when you are not enjoying the present.
One of the things that helps you take those STEPS I have outlined is to stay in a state of balance and stay in thoughts and emotions and awareness of your present relationships. You may need to reset and refocus your intention and attention at the same time. I was asking you to try that in my last blog. All it takes is to tell yourself you desire to remain present with your entire being (intention) and follow that with focused attention to that goal. It is like when you set your phone or calendar to remind you of something. You keep the date and you attend to it.
Taking responsibility for making yourself tune in to yourself and others without “trancing out” or going under the influence by being reactive is very doable with this beginning step. You set your attention on YOU and YOUR engagement with that attention. That is called focus or giving of energy to a focal point. You are actually taking charge of your mind and following that with an action.
The opposite of doing this is to let someone else do it for you. You may “think” you can talk to someone and think about something else or think negatively, but act positively, but you are kidding yourself. Your brain is patterning what you feed it. Letting your brain fog out, use negative inner think patterns, think about what you plan to do later or what you did last night actually is training or reinforcing it to NOT be operating and attuning to the present. Unfortunately, the brain is like a computer and if this is your default setting, it will be used all the time - whether you are talking to a person that bores you or someone you really want to pay attention to in an intimate relationship. Over time, those “neural ruts” get deeper and are harder to change to more enjoyable ways to relate to self and others.
The way to break out into being and staying free to be you begins with placing a special emphasis on directing concentrated energy to stay awake and conscious. That means in the moment - FROM moment to moment. Then, you get momentum from that practice of being mindful of what you are doing.
Please spend a little effort on thinking about how your life would be different if you were able to stay present and not have others trigger you into some reactive state; especially thinking they have the power to “make you mad” or to make you feel any particular way. Think about how much power that gives to others to influence how you see and feel about yourself in all aspects of your life. Ask: “How would it change my life for the positive if I was able to esteem myself enough to share the real me??”
I would like you to recall an incident where either you or the person you were interacting with, “tranced out”. Tell us how that made you feel (if the other person did it) or explain why you think you did it.
See you back in a couple days,
Susan
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