PASSIONATE PERSPECTIVES ON SELF AND PERCEPTION OF SELF-POTENTIAL

Just to be clear on meaning as I write this Love Letter to you so you can love yourself in healthier ways, I need to let you know that how you perceive anything is how you form a concept of it. Therefore, if you have an unhealthy perception of yourself, you will have an unhealthy view of everything about your life. Being self-aware is KEY to coming alive and awake to your TRUE self. Most people were trained to hide or keep out of view the parts of them that others considered not “good enough,” weak or that needed changing. Those messages usually begin in childhood from parents, siblings and teachers or other authority figures. They set up some false beliefs that kids internalize and believe to be the truth until they have a WAKE UP CALL.


First WAKE UP CALL! Ding, Ding, Ding! How many times a day do you ding yourself or put yourself down? Ding, Ding, Ding! How many times a day do you put others down so you can feel “better than” about your own self. Don’t be shy. Admit it. WE all do it. Truth is, however, our relationships with self and others would all be a lot better if we were not doing that or had awareness that we were doing it and owned it by admission which would lead to changes in behavior. Staying unconscious is not an option to finding your true self and realizing your potential.

Truth: If your view of yourself is skewed one way or another (less than or better than) at any given time, your perspective on all of your life is at risk for falseness. Operating with a false perspective makes things confusing, chaotic, and foggy which leads to trancing and not being present in the here and now. It leads to obsessions, addictions, hiding behaviors, arguing, anger and lots of reactive defensiveness. In other words, you will be stressed to the max and dependent on false perceptions. I am sure you know, work with, or even live with people like this. They are random and chaotic and life is usually all about them and their problems or very shut down.

Second WAKE UP CALL! Ding, Ding, Ding! How often do you check out or live in a place of hiding how you really feel? Ding, Ding, Ding! How often are your feelings so reactive that no one can even be honest with you because you are such an intimidating bully? Sometimes, you have formed such a habit of doing these things, you will not even be aware of it or you will rationalize behavior by telling yourself others are MAKING you act that way. REALLY? No one makes any adult act out of line. That adult chooses childish behavior and blames others for it (also, childish).

Lastly, think about this: Are you being true to yourself by lying to yourself? If your perspective is dependent on blaming others and finding fault with them, you are not operating in self-love. That way of behaving is immature and unloving of self and others. Grownups need to love themselves enough to admit issues and owning them. They do belong to YOU if you choose to mistreat others, that is about you, not them. Passion to find your true self requires COMpassion for others and self respect.

See you back in a couple days,


Susan

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