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Psychotherapy blog managed by a Licensed Professional Counselor. Dynamic open discussions centered around therapy issues and family relationships. Some emphasis on addictions (especially sexually related) and codependents of addicts. Clients and therapists welcome.
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I'm not just a depository for my husband. Emotionally or physically! I want to be cared for, caressed, talked nicely to, held closely and stroked. I want to be intimate, not a sex object when the urge strikes.
ReplyDeleteI want to be held close and stroked with loving hands and words. I'm sure I'm not alone in this - am I?
Prattler: No, you're definitely not alone!
ReplyDeleteMy Thought Today to Anyone: What are your thoughts on why people choose to live where they do? Is it strictly family expectations, job, geography (beach vs. mountains or city vs. country), or something else altogether? Why do you live where you do? What do you need to have in your environment to be happy?
I'm really interested in any responses out there.
There have been some recent books on the "geography of happiness" and the "where and why" of where we live.
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ReplyDeleteYour response is most appreciated and very wise, Prattler. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI especially like how you put this: "Haven't really missed one mountain view, ocean view, beautiful home, better climate, etc. We have pictures to remember those things. You can't take pictures of loving relationships. You have to be there!"
I also like this: "Fill your heart and the rest will take care of itself no matter where you are."
I did not grow up with close family ties, and I came from a very dysfunctional home. After eleven years of marriage, two years of separation, and a divorce in 2007, I moved here to the beach in 2005 because I find peace here by the ocean.
I have been dating a wonderful man who I met through E-Harmony for several months now, but he lives in an area that I suspect will not inspire me (at least on paper - I haven't visited there yet) and even reminds me of where I lived with my ex. I hated where I lived with my ex for nine years. Part of that hatred probably grew from the deeply sexually anorexic marriage with my ex that left me feeling unwanted, abandoned, and stunted, thus creating an attachment and association with those feelings to the area. The place NEVER felt like "me." (I have to give enormous thanks to Susan who has counseled me since October 2004 and who has, second to the Holy Spirit, been the voice of such wisdom and counsel. She helped me realize my identity in Christ which had become secondary to my role as a wife. I owe Susan so much. I really do.)
As to my current dilemma with really liking this new man I'm dating and as I said to Susan, I feel like I'm having to decide between a desire for quality companionship and the love and comfort of geography and "place."
I guess time will tell with this.
I really do appreciate your response, Prattler. Great wisdom on your part too!
Thank you again!
Thanks to Prattler and Esther. I think you have interacted well and in doing, have answered your own questions. The idea of filling your heart and the rest will follow is not just wisdom, but plays out in reality. I would like to hear others post on this or give examples of how you have found that to be true.
ReplyDeleteHow many people can control one persons life directly and indirectly? How many people just don't care about anyone else but themselves? How could one person be so invisible to so many? People don't want to interfere so they interfere by not doing so. Stand by and watch people go over the cliff, some to the point of killing themselves. There's just no common sense anymore, no care or concern for another's well being. A "feel good" world, and then it ends up hurting so many. You cry out for help and they tell you, you are the crazy one. That's all, just tired of having my life controlled by too many.
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